“Do you have kids?”
“No.”
“Well… I’d still like your opinion on this… Is it possible to have a career and a family?”
It’s 2025, and yet this question still comes up.
The person asking this was concerned about what impact having a family might have on her career. The reality? It’s not easy. Juggling a career and family often requires difficult choices, planning, and sacrifices.
As a childless woman of a certain age, my opinion may be biased, but I’ve witnessed the struggles and triumphs of many women who chose to have families.
Some of their experiences can leave you infuriated at the status quo, while others offer incredible insight into navigating this balancing act.
If you’re considering your next career move and know you want to bring a little one into the world, here are some practical steps to help you prepare and set yourself up for success:
1. Have an Honest Conversation with Your Partner
In a society where traditional expectations often place the lion’s share of family responsibilities on mothers, it’s crucial to have clear, upfront discussions with your partner. Ask them:
What are they willing to sacrifice?
Would they take shared paternity leave?
How do they envision splitting childcare and household duties?
Establishing transparency and alignment on these topics ensures both partners have a realistic view of what parenting will look like.
2. Look for Companies That Value Flexibility
Organizations offering flexible or hybrid working arrangements are often more understanding of family needs. Whether it’s remote work options, adjustable hours, or generous leave policies, these features can significantly ease the challenge of balancing work and family life.
3. Assess Representation at the Top
Does the company have women in leadership positions? While this isn’t a guarantee, workplaces with female leaders often foster a more inclusive and family-friendly environment.
Representation matters—it shapes workplace culture and policies.
4. Evaluate the Benefits and Role Options
Before committing to a role, investigate the following:
Is there transparency around maternity leave policies?
Are childcare benefits, vouchers, or subsidies available?
Can you explore part-time, job-sharing, or compressed hours?
These options can make a world of difference for working parents.
5. Build a Support Network
Sometimes, your network—both personal and professional—is your greatest asset. Seek out mentors, colleagues, and friends who understand the challenges you’re facing. Don’t hesitate to ask for advice or share experiences; there’s strength in community.
6. Consider Your Career Trajectory
Think about the long-term implications of your career choices:
Does the role or company align with your values and goals?
Will this job provide you with the stability and flexibility you need as a parent?
Are there opportunities for growth that will accommodate your evolving priorities?
Being intentional about your career path now can help you avoid feeling stuck or unsupported later.
Navigating the intersection of career and family is a deeply personal journey, and there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. However, with open communication, thoughtful planning, and a clear understanding of what matters most to you, it is possible to build a fulfilling career and a happy family life.
This is a complex topic, and I’d love to hear from you. What strategies or insights have helped you find balance in a parent-friendly workplace? Share your thoughts below or reach out for a personal conversation.
If you’re exploring how to integrate your career aspirations with family plans, let’s talk. Book a free 30-minute consultation with me to discuss your unique situation and craft a path forward that aligns with your goals. Click here to schedule a session.
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